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It’s not only because I have 37+ years of being in the trenches, obsessed with personal and professional growth, and helping others remodel their lives after the dark night of the soul...

It is mainly because it takes one to know one my beautiful Mama.

 

I see you and feel you.

It sucks and is the hardest thing you have ever been through.

I bet you feel alone and that no one on Earth could possibly understand what is going on inside of you and if they truly did you would be rejected and shunned.

I bet you are thinking “How the hell did this happen - to ME ?”

I bet the shame you feel causes you to feel broken and ask “WTF is wrong with me?”

I bet you are feeling like a nuclear bomb went off inside of your heart.

 

I bet the guilt you feel for hurting the ones you love feels like a tsunami trying to drown you.

I bet you’ve wondered if the world and your loved ones would be better off without your messy ass.

You are NOT alone in this experience.

I know what it feels like to be the strong one who has their shit together, who people go to for help, who runs stages, businesses, a family, PTO, social life, love life then get completely annihilated by a series of back to back life-altering events with no time to get up between violent knock downs.

I know what it feels like to think I can handle it on my own, not ask for help, and think it’s just a phase that will pass.

I know what it feels like to turn to alcohol and s3x to numb the unbearable pain, overwhelm, and disconnection from love.

I know what it feels like to wake up naked and alone in a cold hotel room with vomit in my hair after trying to exit the planet.

I know what it feels like to endure the burning shame of looking at my children and saying goodbye as I left for rehab.

I know what it feels like to try weekly therapy with well-meaning yet ineffective marriage and solo counselors, therapists, and coaches when what was actually needed was intensive repair.

I know what it feels like to be sobbing uncontrollably before entering the courtroom to finalize the unintended divorce.

I know what it feels like to rebuild a new life then watch it crumble again because of unhealed childhood and adult traumas and not being honest and asking for help.

I know what it feels like to have my family lose trust in me and have to breath by breath earn it back.

I know what it feels like to think I have done the work and have the skills yet still run into old patterns that knock me down.

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Bottom line...... I know what it feels like to be YOU and where you are now. 

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I also know what it feels like to heal, grow, and recover from your current TEMPORARY position.

 

After 35 years on this path, I also KNOW how, which ones and why to integrate certain strategies, tactics, hacks, and frameworks that can support you on your journey of your new self.

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If any of this sounds like you and you are looking for an understanding and practical holistic coach (Spiritual Sherpa) , book a call with me and we can chat to see if working together is a good fit. 

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You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. 

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I am a cross between your personal cheerleader, holistic coach, consultant, Spiritual Sherpa, and caring companion along your journey to your new self and life. 

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I look forward to connecting and wish you the MOST blessed day. 

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Remember - if I can get through it, so can YOU 💜

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Aloha, 

Valerie