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LOVE Rule #318 Never Go to Bed Upset




A family member died in his sleep last night. 


This is a huge loss for everyone and at least he got to pass peacefully while sleeping next to his beloved wife. 


We never know when God wants us to come home so each day is precious and never to be taken for granted.  


Have you ever had a disagreement or argument with a loved one and went to bed upset? 


How did it feel? 


For me, I am ultra sensitive and want to repair as quickly as possible and the more time and space between a rupture and repair causes me massive internal anxiety.  


I have learned over the years that not everyone is like me nor wants to repair right away and needs time to cool off and gather their thoughts and energy. 


It has been a tough journey to learn to balance my need for fast repair and some of my loved one’s need for more space before repair. 


We have attempted to make agreements to at least say I love you and we will deal with this tomorrow or the next day so everyone feels like their needs are being respected. 


I have had a notion that in a past life that I didn’t get to say sorry, I love you and goodbye to someone special and they died and I never got the chance and that is possibly why I am so sensitive and anxious around repairing things with people asap. 


Anyway, who knows. 


What I do know is that this is a special week with family and friends, and a great opportunity to express love and gratitude and perhaps even some repair and forgiveness. 


Life is SO short.  


Hug your loved ones extra tight. 


Wishing You Peace, LOVE, and Warm Aloha

Valerie 

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