Rejection is God's Protection and Redirection
- DJ Valerie B LOVE 🩷
- Jan 9
- 10 min read
Updated: Jan 13
Navigating the "Dark Night of the Soul" and Finding the Magic in the Pivot
How’s life treating you in 2025? For me, it has been unpredictable, messy, and deeply transformative. In this intimate solo episode, I open up about my recent "Dark Night of the Soul" and the painful sting of rejection.
But here is the truth I keep coming back to: Rejection is God's Protection and Redirection.
I share how I navigate core wounds, why connecting with God works better for me than any therapy, and how to "rewrite the code" of your past to create a magical future. If you are feeling pushed away, left out, or heartbroken—this episode is for you.
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✨ Key Takeaways
1. Rejection is a core wound in our inner child—and we must be the ones to heal it
Most rejection trauma stems from childhood—whether it was not making the team or a parent giving attention to a sibling. My inner child formed beliefs like "I'm not chosen" based on those moments. Now, as an adult, I realized it is my job to reparent that wounded child and remind her: You are loved, you are chosen, and you belong.
2. Rejection is not the end—it's a quiz, not a final exam
I see life as a curriculum. We take quizzes, then tests, then finals. When a rejection happens or I get triggered again, it’s just the Universe asking: "Are you sure you've learned this lesson?" If I stumble, it’s not a failure—it’s just an opportunity to study harder for the next level of growth.
3. The mantra that saves me: "Rejection is God's protection and redirection"
When I’m in pain—when a relationship ends or a door closes—this phrase changes everything. It allows my higher consciousness to coach my wounded heart. Instead of spiraling, I can tell myself: This specific thing wasn't meant for me. God is protecting me from something I can't see and redirecting me to something better.
4. God is my supply, not people—I plug my "umbilical cord" into the Divine
We often walk through life looking for a partner, a boss, or a friend to "parent" us and make us feel safe. But humans are finite; they will disappoint us. God is infinite. When I stop trying to plug my umbilical cord into people and plug it into Divine Source instead, I access an unlimited supply of love that no one can take away.
5. Living in the "in-between" requires faith, not certainty
The hardest place to be is the void between the rejection and the new beginning. That is where faith becomes real. Real faith isn't believing when you can see the outcome. Real faith is trusting at 2:00 AM when I'm crying in bed, don't know what comes next, but still choose to believe that the Universe has my back.
6. I have the power to rewrite my past by assigning new meaning to it
I can't change what happened, but I can change what it means. Instead of saying "I got rejected because I'm not worthy," I ask: "What was God saving me from?" Without fail, every single rejection in my life has been followed by something magical—a new opportunity, a new love, or a deeper truth.
Episode Overview
In this raw and unscripted episode, I invite you into my personal journey through recent heartbreaks and rejections. We all carry the core wound of wanting to be chosen—whether it stems from childhood, not getting picked for the team, or a relationship ending. When that wound gets ripped open again, it can feel like a "spiritual final exam."
I discuss why I believe that every rejection is actually a divine pivot. I share my analogy of life as a series of quizzes and tests, leading up to the moments where we must prove to ourselves (and God) that we have truly learned the lesson.
We talk about being the "DJ of your life"—controlling the knobs, dials, and the meaning you assign to your past. Most importantly, I share why God is my ultimate supply. When we unplug our umbilical cords from people and plug them into Spirit, we find a safety and love that can never be taken away.
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In this episode, I also share how I help others navigate their own transformations. I am not just a podcaster; I am a "Super Coach," a cheerleader, and a "Cool Auntie" who will kick your butt (with love) toward your vision.
If you are going through a divorce, a career pivot, a health scare, or a spiritual awakening, you don't have to do it alone.
⏱️ Episode Timestamps
(00:00:02) Intro: The unpredictable energy of 2025 & The Dark Night of the Soul
(00:00:33) The Core Wound: Why rejection hurts the Inner Child so much
(00:01:56) Life’s Curriculum: Quizzes, tests, and the "Final Exam" of faith
(00:02:49) The Mantra: "Rejection is God's Protection and Redirection"
(00:04:05) The Ultimate Healer: Why connecting with God beats therapy & psychedelics for me
(00:05:08) Be the DJ: Rewriting your past by changing the meaning
(00:06:19) The Pivot: Why magic always follows a painful "No"
(00:07:00) Living in Faith: Trusting the Universe in the messy "in-between"
(00:09:02) The Umbilical Cord: Stop looking for mommy/daddy in others—plug into Source
(00:13:25) Coaching with DJ Valerie B LOVE: How I help you design a badass life
🙋♀️ Common Questions About Rejection, Faith, and Healing
How long does it take to heal a core rejection wound?
There's no fixed timeline. I have been doing deep healing work for years, and I still get triggered. The difference is that now, when rejection happens, I can move through it faster. I understand what's happening (a retriggering of an old pattern), I can self-coach my inner child, and I can trust the redirection. Healing isn't about never feeling pain again—it's about knowing what to do when the pain arrives.
What if I don't believe in God? Can I still use this framework?
Yes. I emphasize throughout that "God" can mean whatever you believe in: the Universe, Nature, a Higher Power, or your own highest self. The core principle is that there's something larger than your wounded ego that's orchestrating your life for your highest good. Whether you call it God, Destiny, the Tao, or Synchronicity, the practice remains the same: trust the redirection instead of fighting it.
What's the difference between rejecting yourself and being rejected by others?
Both hurt, but they serve different purposes. When others reject you, it's an external trigger reminding you of your inner wound. When you reject yourself (by not pursuing dreams, not speaking up, staying small), you're protecting your inner child from potential rejection. The healing work involves both: (1) reparenting your inner child so external rejection doesn't devastate you, and (2) stopping self-rejection so you can pursue your vision fully.
How do I know if something is a "redirection" and not just a disappointment?
You usually don't know in the moment. This is where faith comes in. My pattern has always been this: every rejection has been followed by something better. A breakup led to a new partner. A job loss led to entrepreneurship. A closed door led to an unexpected opportunity. I can only see the pattern in retrospect. In the moment, it just feels like pain. But looking back, I can say: "Oh, I see. That was God protecting me from the wrong situation. And here's what came instead."
Should I try to repair the relationship or situation that rejected me?
Not necessarily. My framework suggests accepting the redirection rather than fighting it. If someone or something has rejected you, the Universe might be saying: "This isn't aligned with your highest good." That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It means you're not a vibrational match. Rather than chase someone who's chosen not to choose you, trust that God has someone/something better coming.
What if the "in-between" lasts a really long time?
Welcome to the spiritual path. Some people are in the in-between for months or years. This is actually where the most growth happens. You're forced to develop faith instead of relying on certainty. You're forced to connect with something larger than yourself. You're forced to let go of controlling the timeline and trust the process. The length of the in-between is less important than what you're learning during it.
How do I reparent my inner child if I didn't have good parents?
You become the parent you needed. You learn from other sources—therapists, coaches, spiritual teachers, books. You create the internal dialogue you wish someone had given you. When your inner child feels rejected, instead of letting her spiral into shame, you step in as the loving adult and say: "You are loved. You are chosen by God. This rejection is protecting you from something that wouldn't have served you. I've got you. Trust me."
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📜 Full Episode Transcript
Hey Aloha Love Tribe. How's life going for you in the year 2025? My life has been quite unpredictable in a lot of ways. I want to talk to you about a "Dark Night of the Soul" that I went through recently, as well as what prompted it: rejection.
The Core Wound of Rejection For me, it is an old core wound. I think almost any human being on Earth struggles with feeling rejected. Whether you were a little kid and didn't get chosen for the team, or your parents gave your sibling the bigger piece of cake—it stems from something that happened in our childhood. It’s nature; you're not going to get chosen for everything forever. But there are these little core traumas living inside us, and our inner child really needs to be loved and parented by us, the adults.
A lot of the work I do is about self-coaching and having a dual conversation with that inner child. I've been working on this intensely recently because of two big rejections I had last year, and then another situation ripped the wound open again.
Life as a Series of Tests I was talking with a student the other day about how learning works. You take a quiz, learn something, then take a test. It compounds into quarterfinals, finals, and end-of-year exams. It’s a step ladder constantly asking, "Are you sure you got it?" Recently, I got a reminder that I needed to work on this because I got ultra-triggered and pulled backward painfully.
The Spiritual Perspective There is a phrase—I didn't make it up—that says: Rejection is God's protection and redirection.
When the adult, the mother, and the higher consciousness in me remember that, I can coach my inner child who still wants to feel included, welcomed, and chosen. When people in our lives—whether it's a boss, lover, kid, friend, or spouse—don't choose you, or even push you away, it is brutally painful for our souls.
I'm still healing. You can do all the work—hypnotherapy, somatic therapy, psychedelics, DBT, or CBT—but for me, what works most is connecting with God. When I remember that I am always chosen as a child of God, I find peace. There is never a moment God has rejected me.
Becoming the DJ of Your Life You still have to manage the "monkey mind" and that inner chatter. I have to work on my self-talk because that inner voice is a talker! I have to stay in control. In the 11x Love Code, I talk about becoming the DJ of your life: being in charge of the mixer, controlling what comes in and what goes out the speakers, and creating something new.
You have the power to rewrite your code, your past, and your future. Rewriting your past means assigning new meaning to things. It's important that you are in charge of that meaning, rather than letting a wounded child form accidental, wrong assumptions.
Living in Faith It’s important to understand that things happen for a reason. Maybe you didn't get the job, or that person didn't want to date you anymore. Ask yourself: What was the pivot God wanted me to experience instead?
In my life, without fail, every time I get rejected, something magical happens in the future—a new partner, home, experience, or opportunity. But the "in-between" is difficult because your mind wants resolution. When you're in the middle, that is called living in faith. Even if your heart is attached to a future vision you thought you'd have, you must turn it over to God and trust that the Universe has your back.
The Source of Supply Be gentle with yourself when you fall backward. You are not rejected; you are loved 24/7. God wants you to shine and thrive.
One of my teachers says everyone is running around with their umbilical cords looking for their mommy. But really, the only thing that works is plugging that cord into Spirit. God is your supply. When we remember that, we can feel safe and connected, even when crying at 2:00 AM not knowing what happens next. Use your breath to tune into Spirit and be present with the magic power of God.
Navigating Messy Times We are entering some messy times on Earth. I’m not political—I’m a registered independent now because I feel the system lacks transparency and doesn't have our backs. Because of this, I'm doubling down on my commitment to bring you content and "love power practices" to help you stay grounded, reframe the past, and navigate stressful situations gracefully.
Coaching and Designing Your Future I also want to share that I offer coaching through the 11x Love Method. I only work with a few people at a time because it is deep, intense work. I act as your cheerleader, a coach who pushes you toward your vision, and a "cool auntie" who provides nurturing without judgment.
Whether you're going through a divorce, a health scare, or a career change, I help you design your future. I’ve done this in my own life—coming from Michigan with no money, putting myself through college bartending, and creating a "badass" life as a captain, holistic practitioner, DJ, and mother. I realized my visions, and I want to help you do the same.
Final Thoughts Rejection is God's protection and redirection. Like the Phoenix, sometimes we have to burn to rise from the ashes. Don't worry if you’re going through a Dark Night of the Soul—I’m here to support you.
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Peace, love, and warm Aloha. Ciao.
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